Everyone faces issues in their relationships at one time or another. Sometimes, the problems seem to never get better. When problems begin growing bigger, considering couples therapy is a great option. By going for couples counseling, you are showing your spouse that you want the relationship to fix and are ready to put in the effort to help it do so.
However, you may be wondering what exactly will happen throughout the sessions. What questions will you have to reply to? Will the counselor be very involved? By finding the answers to these questions and more, you will be prepared for your couples counseling sessions and be ready to put in the effort to make your relationship better.
I’ve often seen people are interested in knowing what happens behind the closed doors of a counseling room.
Then there are the people that enjoy gossip and drama, and just want to know the spicy aspects about others.
Well, I’m sorry to mislead, but what goes on in a couples counseling session is less about listening to the content of what people like and more about the process of how people are connecting with each other.
Here are some of the most simple things you can expect in an active couples counseling session.
Your counselor will want to know about your individual history
Your counselor must ask you about your personal stories, so they can take note of any important past issues that may have affected you in your life. We are all formed by our life experiences, and this, in turn, shapes how we compare to others.
So with these questions, I’m attending to any significant life experiences that may be affecting the couple's relationship.
Your counselor will ask about how your relationship started
This is a really important component of couples counseling.
I want to know what brought this couple to be together? What were they attracted to? Why did they want each other? Under what situations did they meet?
The answers to these topics help me decide important breakthroughs in their relationship, as well as have a clay sketch of where they’ve come from and where they want to go.
Your counselor will be interested in your current obstacles and issues in your relationship
The first thing I ask any couple I work with is I want to know what are the issues, problems, conflicts, or challenges that have led to this couple reaching out to me for couples counseling.
This is the most sensible place to start so that I have a handle on what’s going on, so we are all on the same page.
Your counselor will be addressing your strengths as a couple
I don’t believe couples counseling is all about looking for queries.
I believe a good couple counselor will also highlight the strengths they are noticing in a relationship.
This is important because it then means you can create on the strengths you already have in your relationship, particularly if you’re taking pre-wedding counseling.
Your counselor will want to know what kind of relationship you aspire.
If you don’t have a picture, you can’t get to your purpose. So you must share what type of relationship you want to have with your partner.
Most people come to couples counseling because they are unhappy or dissatisfied with an aspect of their relationship.
So to get off to a powerful start, I want to know exactly what they each want in a relationship.
This then helps us map a course for what the couple does want and doesn’t want. The idea is the end result they want to achieve and then we can start to plan the course of how to get there.
Your counselor will be proactive, sensitive and give open-ended real feedback
I approach couples counseling very differently from personal counseling.
I consider being an effective couple counselor you need to be very proactive and sensitive to the couple.
Couple counseling is very active, so it needs a dynamic counselor who’s not afraid to step in and negotiate when needed during the session.
If a couple counselor is sitting back and letting you fight in front of them for long periods, likely, you won’t encounter any long-lasting change.
A good couple therapist will guide the session so you’re both heard and any growths are suspended.
Change comes from doing things separately, not repeating the same thing over and over again.
Your counselor will constantly evaluate your performance mutually
Couples counseling is rarely something that you start doing with no termination date in the future.
An effective couples counselor will pause and review your work together frequently. This is so you can trace what’s working and what’s not working in counseling.
This also opens up the channels of feedback, so your therapist can also switch if required.
Any effective therapist is open to feedback- positive and negative, so don’t be afraid to tell your counselor how you’re finding the therapy and if there’s anything you want to be done differently.
This will help you get the most out of your work mutually and help you in getting the best-desired outcomes.
Couples therapy has helped millions of people throughout the nation. Understanding what to expect can reduce anxiety and stress about the method. Couples therapy is used for discussing problems in relationships without partners criticizing each other. The therapist serves as a facilitator to keep the conversations polite and come up with a strategy to enhance the relationship. You can expect questions and lots of open and honest conversation. Preparing for the sessions may be best to give you a sense of what will happen.
At ReLive Because YOU Matter, we offer couples counseling to help you both become the best versions of yourself and discover the best path for your Relationship Excellence.
Do you want relationship support?
If you need help with your relationship, contact Sangeeta Pattanaik on 095566 58935 to review your situation and find out how we can help.
You may also read her Book available on Amazon. Revive Clarity in your relationship. The book has many tips and interesting facts on couples. How to reconnect with the disconnected partner.
I’ve often seen people are interested in knowing what happens behind the closed doors of a counseling room.
Then there are the people that enjoy gossip and drama, and just want to know the spicy aspects about others.
Well, I’m sorry to mislead, but what goes on in a couples counseling session is less about listening to the content of what people like and more about the process of how people are connecting with each other.
Here are some of the most simple things you can expect in an active couples counseling session.
Your counselor will want to know about your individual history
Your counselor must ask you about your personal stories, so they can take note of any important past issues that may have affected you in your life. We are all formed by our life experiences, and this, in turn, shapes how we compare to others.
So with these questions, I’m attending to any significant life experiences that may be affecting the couple's relationship.
Your counselor will ask about how your relationship started
This is a really important component of couples counseling.
I want to know what brought this couple to be together? What were they attracted to? Why did they want each other? Under what situations did they meet?
The answers to these topics help me decide important breakthroughs in their relationship, as well as have a clay sketch of where they’ve come from and where they want to go.
Your counselor will be interested in your current obstacles and issues in your relationship
The first thing I ask any couple I work with is I want to know what are the issues, problems, conflicts, or challenges that have led to this couple reaching out to me for couples counseling.
This is the most sensible place to start so that I have a handle on what’s going on, so we are all on the same page.
Your counselor will be addressing your strengths as a couple
I don’t believe couples counseling is all about looking for queries.
I believe a good couple counselor will also highlight the strengths they are noticing in a relationship.
This is important because it then means you can create on the strengths you already have in your relationship, particularly if you’re taking pre-wedding counseling.
Your counselor will want to know what kind of relationship you aspire.
If you don’t have a picture, you can’t get to your purpose. So you must share what type of relationship you want to have with your partner.
Most people come to couples counseling because they are unhappy or dissatisfied with an aspect of their relationship.
So to get off to a powerful start, I want to know exactly what they each want in a relationship.
This then helps us map a course for what the couple does want and doesn’t want. The idea is the end result they want to achieve and then we can start to plan the course of how to get there.
Your counselor will be proactive, sensitive and give open-ended real feedback
I approach couples counseling very differently from personal counseling.
I consider being an effective couple counselor you need to be very proactive and sensitive to the couple.
Couple counseling is very active, so it needs a dynamic counselor who’s not afraid to step in and negotiate when needed during the session.
If a couple counselor is sitting back and letting you fight in front of them for long periods, likely, you won’t encounter any long-lasting change.
A good couple therapist will guide the session so you’re both heard and any growths are suspended.
Change comes from doing things separately, not repeating the same thing over and over again.
Your counselor will constantly evaluate your performance mutually
Couples counseling is rarely something that you start doing with no termination date in the future.
An effective couples counselor will pause and review your work together frequently. This is so you can trace what’s working and what’s not working in counseling.
This also opens up the channels of feedback, so your therapist can also switch if required.
Any effective therapist is open to feedback- positive and negative, so don’t be afraid to tell your counselor how you’re finding the therapy and if there’s anything you want to be done differently.
This will help you get the most out of your work mutually and help you in getting the best-desired outcomes.
Couples therapy has helped millions of people throughout the nation. Understanding what to expect can reduce anxiety and stress about the method. Couples therapy is used for discussing problems in relationships without partners criticizing each other. The therapist serves as a facilitator to keep the conversations polite and come up with a strategy to enhance the relationship. You can expect questions and lots of open and honest conversation. Preparing for the sessions may be best to give you a sense of what will happen.
At ReLive Because YOU Matter, we offer couples counseling to help you both become the best versions of yourself and discover the best path for your Relationship Excellence.
Do you want relationship support?
If you need help with your relationship, contact Sangeeta Pattanaik on 095566 58935 to review your situation and find out how we can help.
You may also read her Book available on Amazon. Revive Clarity in your relationship. The book has many tips and interesting facts on couples. How to reconnect with the disconnected partner.
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