Once children enter toddler years most parents strive to keep their sanity. Toddler years are not comfortable. You may wonder, ‘How to be a calm parent?’, when in the midst of temper outbursts and situation control issues.
Let’s face it. Parenting is challenging yet very rewarding! Respect is the key to any relationship.
Give it to your children; they will be gratified and you shall get it back as well.
When parents are asked what they want for their children? The most obvious reply is, they want their children to be happy.
Kids have a very active mind and a high grasping power. A lot of us still remember the poems and lessons learned during childhood. If the children learn meditation and the art of controlling their minds at the initial stages of life, then they can do wonders in life. Firstly, the parents should learn to practice meditation, then their impact of thoughts and emotions will affect their child. The children model their parents the most. If parents sit in meditation in silence for some time, the children would surely follow them.
And, to get a peaceful mind, children should be brought up in a safe & loving environment. They need to be protected from negative thoughts of life till they become adults. They should get a playful company & environment.
Research shows that yelling makes children more aggressive, physically and verbally. As a parent, raising your voice to the point of screaming scares children and makes them feel uncomfortable and controlling. It has been shown to cause long-term results, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, and raised aggression. A parent who is calm is supportive & nurturing which makes children feel loved and accepted in spite of their bad behavior.
So, let’s check out the steps to have a peaceful, and happy mind for kids
Teach Optimism - Children who are trained how to think and interpret the world optimistically are half as prone to depression when they later go through the puberty phase. It’s a parent’s duty to teach their kid to think positively and have a positive mindset in everything around them. It can only be done when parents work on themselves. Optimistic children are more successful at school, work and life. They are healthier and live longer. They are less likely to deal with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks. And, end up having a more happy and peaceful life.
Teach Emotional Intelligence - Emotional Intelligence is an art and not an inborn quality. Encouraging kids by showing them that you’re listening and trying to understand the feeling can help them achieve Emotional Balance. If you see them getting upset about something, ask them what they are bothered about and how they are feeling. Ask them the importance of identifying the right emotions and expressing them in words. For some younger kids, visual support might help.
Give yourself a timeout - Timeouts aren’t just for kids. Adults also need timeouts or short breaks to calm down. Taking deep breaths, give yourself a few minutes to allow a level of reason to respond to your mind. You’ll be in a better place to make relevant parenting judgments.
Clear Expectations - Another great way to help kids to have a strong mindset is to make your expectations clear and consistent. It’s important to keep it low and simple. Informing them in advance about the expectation and your views, help them to make their mind accordingly in advance and it is easily acceptable.
Give more options - When kids are asked to do things they’re not likely to feel passionate about, giving them options may reduce outbreaks and improve acceptance. For example: “You can either come with me for shopping or you can go with Dad to pick up your brother.” Or: “You can get ready for bed now and we can read a story “Giving two options helps in reducing the stress.
Be sure you understand the situation - Why get annoyed with your kids before you know the facts? Ensure the problem is not a possible miscommunication.
Learn and practice relaxation techniques - The more relaxed you are in daily life as a parent, the less likely you are to become angry. Relaxation techniques can also be effective after the event. Discover how to self-soothe. It’s a skill that can be acquired.
Sum up :
Avoid letting anger, disappointment, and worry get the best of you. As a thoughtful, generous human being and parent, you have options available to you. Seek to find clarifications and peace rather than giving in to your quick impulses.
Lastly, allow your child to figure out what works best for him/her to have a calm and peaceful life. And continue following them mutually. The valuable life skill of being able to have a calm and happy mind will lead to having better connections and improvement at home and outdoors.
Do let me know in the comment section if any of these tips and tricks have helped you to pull out in a positive and more effective way.
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