Tips to bring Peace and Harmony in Relationship

I know, when you read this topic, the first thing that may hit your mind is no relationship is perfect but trust me, having a peaceful one is definitely possible. It’s just a matter of understanding, acceptance, and respect that brings peace into a relationship. A harmonious relationship doesn’t mean that the partner will never argue or disagree, it’s that their underlying commitment is constant and ongoing.

If you want to have a harmonious relationship with your partner, start with having a truly harmonious bond with yourself by practicing self-love.

I love how the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh defines true love as being a form of four components:

Loving-kindness

Compassion

Joy

Equanimity

If you consider it, all of these factors individually refer to the relationship we all have with the most significant person in the world: ourselves.

Here are some tips that will help you bring more peace, harmony, and bond within yourself and in your relationship.

Kindness & Compassion helps in building Deep and Harmonious Relationships - If you want to build deep and harmonious relationships, you have to practice kindness and compassion, as an individual and as a couple. These two factors can deepen your bond with your partner. When you approach any issue being kind, you naturally respond with empathy rather than jumping into a conclusion. This helps in open communication, is free from assumptions, and maintaining transparency. Similarly, compassion helps you to see from the other’s points of view, position, and circumstances with kindness. When there is compassion and kindness in a relationship, no matter how bad the situation is, it can be handled without heated arguments or clashes.

Accept your partner for who they are - Constantly trying to change your partner will always result in disconnection & disharmony. However, when you accept your partner completely, with all their flaws, differences, and quirks you allow them to grow and transform into the best version of themselves. Give them space to grow at their own pace, consciously make an effort to accept them as they are throughout your journey, and you’ll notice your relationship transform.


Prioritize open & honest communication - Clear and transparent communication is essential to bring peace and harmony in a relationship, as it facilitates better understanding. Communication doesn’t just pertain to the choice of words, but your tone, expressions, and body language also play an important role in delivering a message. It's important what you say But it's more important how you say it. The idea of honest and clear communication is not to seek complete agreement on everything, but To understand each other’s views and learn to accept and respect them even when you don’t agree with them. When clarity is the base of your communication you can truly grow together, without fear of your words being taken in the wrong sense.

Create Space - At first, the lack of space might seem pleasant and comforting, like a sweet embrace. But over time you may notice that there's a portion of suffocation. You need space to breathe, to expand, and to look within. A peaceful and harmonious relationship demands a lot of space for each individual to do their own thing. Each partner acknowledges the importance of practicing their own passion and pastimes. There are no insecurities for each other’s hobbies or friends. Yes, you are a couple. But you are above all two individual people. Creating space is equally important to bring peace in relationships.

Don’t have unrealistic expectations from your partner - Do you find yourself to have unrealistic expectations in your relationship? When your expectations aren't met you might find yourself upset over something that was never clearly approached. Letting go of expectations reduces the cause of disappointment. Let go and you will find peace and harmony in the space where your expectations used to be. For example, let’s say you expect your partner to buy you an exotic gift for your anniversary. But they book an overnight stay at a quaint BnB. Instead of getting upset over things for not planning out the way you want, try to enjoy the setting you’re in. Admire the effort they have made even if it is not what you expected.

Apologize and admit your mistake - Many people believe that offering an apology is a sign of weakness. No, It is not. It determines that you take responsibility for any hurt, misunderstanding, or mistake you may have caused. In a peaceful and harmonious relationship, the couple apologizes instantly and makes sure not to get stuck on old hurts and disappointments.

Wrapping Up :

A harmonious relationship needs continuous effort and support. You can neither implant peace into relationships overnight nor can you expect that once achieved it’ll last for a lifetime. But the importance of building harmonious relationships lies in the fact that it brings peace and hope, it is each moment worth the effort. If you have been following some of these tips and making a certain attempt to bring peace and harmony in your relationship but not seeing any results, it may be time to rethink the relationship, going into therapy, or talking to a Relationship Counselor or a Mental Wellness Coach can help you to get more transparency and a mental shift towards what is wrong or right in your relationship rather than who is right or wrong.